Crazy adoption friends, I want to thank you for supporting Adoption 101 and the amazing comments and emails you leave for me to read and inspiring others to look into the crazy adventure of adoption. The advice I offer you in 101 are my own personal opinions and want to keep the door open for critique, advice, or guidance from you, too. I’m just a mom and I learn so much from your adoption journeys!
As you already know from my crazy T shirt blitz… we are starting our 2nd adoption to Ethiopia. We are completing our homestudy, (hopefully in the next couple weeks) so the subject I wanted to discuss on Adoption 101: Ready or Not is coming straight from my heart. This has been a subject that my hubby and I have prayed and talked about for weeks. Are we ready or not to start the next adoption? Our hearts are ready to go forward 1000%! We are prepared to work hard to complete the paperwork and fundraise for the cost of adoption. We love being a mom and dad… there is no question that we want to open our home and hearts for another child through the miracle of adoption.
I feel like I’m starting an adventurous hike and my backpack is packed with most of the necessary tools I need to start the journey: water bottle, snacks, extra socks, journal, band aids and flashlight. I have friends who are ready to cheer and pray and support me to the finish line. I’m a little out of shape, but I know I don’t have to run up the mountain… I can take my time and enjoy the beauty around me. However, I don’t have a new map and I understand from others the trails have changed. I see two roads ahead and I don’t know what path to take. The signs are not clear to me yet. I’m ready to start bouncing ahead full speed, but I’m starting to see warning signs pop up.
Hubby & I started talking about the reality of adoption and asking each other some really tough questions. The financial cost is enormous, but we have the faith to know God will provide all our needs. Here’s the tricky part of the journey… waiting for validation or confirmation from the Lord on His timing not our timing. We are ready to move forward with our next adoption, but is God ready for us to move forward? I read stories every day on blogs and adoption websites of the supernatural miracles for families fundraising. I weep every time I read a new miracle of how God provides the finances for adoption. We are struggling with moving forward with the process, not because of lack of faith, but responsibility. We are praying fervently for direction.
I think the question comes down to – do we stop the paperwork and concentrate on raising the funds… all of it? If we complete the dossier for an older child, most likely the referral will come quickly. Are we being responsible to surge full speed ahead with the dossier, knowing we would be lost without a paddle if we did not complete our fundraising? I trust in the Lord that He will provide in His perfect timing. I believe if He wants us to adopt, He will open doors for us financially.
I’m working so hard (you are too!) coming up with ideas and creative projects, but now facing the reality of the costs of each stage. We want to be responsible to our family, adoption agency and child waiting. I really want to know your thoughts… will you share with me any advice, wisdom and guidance? Are we ready or not?