My Blind Date

By March 25, 2010 Parenting 4 Comments

Do you ever wonder why romance is so hard to ignite when you have kids?  Roger and I often discuss our lack of energy and zip when it comes to planning a romantic date, especially when we can barely keep our eyes open for the 10PM news.  We love being a mom & dad, but its a constant crazy challenge to find time for mushy gushy romance for two.

We woke up Saturday morning and headed to Krispy Kreme donuts with Zoie.  Our 2 teens were out of town visiting family, so it was just the three of us.  Out of the blue, Roger said with a twinkle in his eye, “Let’s get out of town for 24 hrs and celebrate our anniversary!”  I was elated… we still love being spontaneous after 18 years!  We decided to use some points saved with Hyatt Place and head to Tulsa for fun and PF Chang!  It was the perfect plan… Zoie was excited to take a road trip and swim in the pool.  She mentioned that about 598 times the first hour of our getaway.  We blasted though the border of OK and the steady rain changed direction… sleet pelted our windows, but soon turned into snow.  We were really surprised, due to the drastic change of scenery.  Roger joked about not checking the weather online before delving into our journey to romance.  We drove straight into a winter spring wonderland.

The next 4 hours were really terrifying.  We watched cars skidding off the side of I44 into the snowy drifts left and right.  Cars, trucks, and vans full of families on spring break sidelined or overturned with emergency vehicles scattered at each site.  My fingers were clutched in a death grip as our van maneuvered around hazardous icy patches… as I repeated over and over… “are we crazy???”  The worst part was driving blindly behind semi trucks spraying snow and ice like a car wash.

By the time we reached the Hilton, we were stressed to the max.  Zoie skipped her nap on the long drive, so was starting to melt down.  The pool was outdoors, so we avoided talking about the swimming part of our trip.  We decided to stick with the original plan and eat at PF Changs… snow was not going to keep us from their signature dishes of dumplings, calamari and Kung Pao Shrimp for two.  This irresistible meal would erase the terror of our icy drive.  The restaurant was only a few miles away, so the drive was less eventful.  Zoie was happy munching on crispy chips when out of the blue, she hit her limit.  She had a melt down that would win her an Oscar.  She snapped and started throwing utensils and items of our food on the floor.  It happened so fast and furious it took us off guard.  The waiter looked at us with sympathy and quickly made our meal “to go.”  I was sooo disappointed, but didn’t want to ruin any of the other romantic dates happening all around us, especially when tea cups and peaches were flying.  Princess Z was banned to the hotel room, but finally passed out in her crib.  We munched on our Entrees and cold calamari in peace.

We woke up the next day to the blizzard of spring ’10.  How in the world did we end up here… we could have stayed home and had a delicious meal for two at Cracker Barrel in the rain.  We were stuck, but after several crazy tantrums and drama from our two year old it pushed us out to venture in the storm and head to Starbucks at Super Target for a caffeine buzz.  Zoie was in heaven (you know she’s the Target Baby) so we played in the store for several hours until the snow stopped.

All I can say at this point, romance is hard work and sometimes a little crazy, but I’m so grateful my hubby’s love for me remains a constant in my life.  I want to hear your ideas on how to keep romance burning bright… any crazy suggestions?

Romance in the snow from Kari Gibson on Vimeo.

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  • 1

    So often things don't go the way we hope they will, but love goes a long way, as does a good sense of humor! With eleven children, we have to be very creative to keep the romance alive in our marriage. We make early mornings our time together – the younger children (ages 11 – 3) are not allowed to get out of bed until 7:00, which gives us some wonderful quiet to enjoy being together. Sometimes it is hard to get up early…but the benefits of that precious time with my husband are worth it!

  • 2
    melodie says:

    I don't have any sage advice…but will check back here for some…what a story…oh my!

  • 3
    SarahJ says:

    Hi. 🙂 First time to comment on your blog, although I've been reading for a while. 🙂 Something we're just starting to try out is to have hubby and wife each make a list of 10+ things they'd love to do on a date night (under an agreed upon budget amount). Then when date nights draw near, you take turns being the one to plan the date so that you don't have that moment of "I don't know, what do you want to do?" If it is my turn, I pick one of the things off my hubby's list and do my best to make it a fun, exciting thing- sometimes a surprise. 🙂 That way, you can mix it up, and trade out the responsibility for planning, yet still please your spouse by choosing something they would enjoy. And it was fun for us because we each had some unusual choices: A bottle of wine and a puzzle, going to a restaurant that serves an ethnic/foreign food we've never tried and ordering the house specialty or server's recommendation, sushi in the park, decaf and pie to go from a diner eaten on a blanket while stargazing… 🙂

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    Angel says:

    With the stress of a pending adoption and raising a four and two year old, my husband and I have decided having fun together is the greatest form of romance. Laughing and doing little things to perk us up has really relieved the stress on all of us. We decided to apply this to our last date and it turned out to be very romantic. We barrowed my parents convertable and road with the top down. We went to the batting cages; I wore his baseball cap backwards and cheered wildly while he tried to hit the ball. Then we rented a paddle boat at sunset on a lake hear in town which turned out to be very romantic. Strang for two 29/30 year olds to say it but it made us feel young again!

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